Telling your girl about lift and carry

luff(arungen) · August 9th, 2022, 19:20

nowadays it is easier to do this because you can first playfully talk about her being strong and then "realize" after a little while that her strength turns her on...and then "realize" that her lifting you also turns you on. In case you don't want to be honest from the get-go, that is.

One thing I used to do back when telling a girl of my lift and carry fetish was that - as we dated - I would bring up the topic of fetishes. Not MY fetish but rather HER fetishes. I would ask her if she had any fetishes or anything kinky she liked. Or maybe just something she preferred during/before sex. If they were shy about it, I'd encourage them and say that everyone has fetishes/kinks/preferences and there's nothing wrong with it. I'd also say that I'd like to accommodate their fetish.

In every single case where the girl told me of her fetish/kink/preference, she would then reciprocate the question. That would be a good segue to me mentioning my fetish.

pickmeup9 · August 9th, 2022, 22:51

Here’s what I did in my last relationship. I picked her up and made out with her. Then later I asked if she thought that was hot. Then I mentioned I think it’d be hot if she did it to me. And she was like, sure. And then it was fine, and I could refer to it later and be like “remember the time…” to remind her it was a big turn on for me.

As for whether to tell your partner or not, I mean, of course you should. Do you want to do l&c with her? If so, then you’ve got to communicate for that to happen. I can’t imagine having a close relationship with someone without mentioning that part of myself. Let me assure you, it is definitely worth it.

August 9th, 2022, 19:20	#1
luff(arungen) Administrator Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: USA Posts: 1,088 : 2 For This Post 624 Total	my tactic nowadays it is easier to do this because you can first playfully talk about her being strong and then "realize" after a little while that her strength turns her on...and then "realize" that her lifting you also turns you on. In case you don't want to be honest from the get-go, that is. One thing I used to do back when telling a girl of my lift and carry fetish was that - as we dated - I would bring up the topic of fetishes. Not MY fetish but rather HER fetishes. I would ask her if she had any fetishes or anything kinky she liked. Or maybe just something she preferred during/before sex. If they were shy about it, I'd encourage them and say that everyone has fetishes/kinks/preferences and there's nothing wrong with it. I'd also say that I'd like to accommodate their fetish. In every single case where the girl told me of her fetish/kink/preference, she would then reciprocate the question. That would be a good segue to me mentioning my fetish. __________________ Luffarungen, the one and only

August 9th, 2022, 22:51	#2
pickmeup9 VIP Honored Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 408 : 2 For This Post 1,594 Total	Here’s what I did in my last relationship. I picked her up and made out with her. Then later I asked if she thought that was hot. Then I mentioned I think it’d be hot if she did it to me. And she was like, sure. And then it was fine, and I could refer to it later and be like “remember the time…” to remind her it was a big turn on for me. As for whether to tell your partner or not, I mean, of course you should. Do you want to do l&c with her? If so, then you’ve got to communicate for that to happen. I can’t imagine having a close relationship with someone without mentioning that part of myself. Let me assure you, it is definitely worth it.