Telling your girl about lift and carry

preacher860 · May 3rd, 2021, 14:40

As a teen and in my early 20s I used to be ashamed of it and not really mention it, which proved not to be the way to go. Eventually, the girls I dated understood I liked to be lifted by them and I felt they found it weird that I tried to hide in instead of just being open and honest about it.

As I grew older I decided to be more open about it and it paid off. Back when I was dating, I would tell the girls right away, sometimes even before meeting them. Most of them found it really cute and amusing and were eager to give it a shot. I've had many good rides back then because the girls understood it was something important to me and really wanted to deliver to show me if we ever were to be together, they would be capable of giving me what I liked. And boy did they try hard, they really gave all they had to prove themselves!

I also met a few that found it creepy, didn't want to try or even hear about it. Those were the ones I knew I better steer clear of. Not because I wouldn't want to be with a girl who won't give me a ride but because of the general lack of open-mindedness that lied beneath. And the fact I somewhat felt judged by them instead of understood. Oh well, and also, let's face it, no, I wouldn't want to be with a girl that's not even willing to try.

Then I met the woman I've been with for the last 11 years and as for the others, I told her in the early days of our dating that I liked that. She was completely non-judgmental about it, found it original and funny, but also told me that she wasn't all that strong and didn't know if she could do it and for how long. We did try a piggyback at her place shortly after and indeed she could support my weight but it looked very hard and she could only move slowly.

Since then however she's been working out a lot and became much stronger, actually able to give me piggyback rides that last for a few minutes, climb stairs, squat me, and she's having fun doing it. Not only that, she's also ok with me riding on other girls so what's not to like?

So all in all, for me being open about it was the way to go. I can't speak for others, every situation is unique of course. But I can say I wouldn't be happy sharing my life with a woman that thinks I'm a weirdo.

buryZenek · May 5th, 2021, 10:58

It is always better to say about that directly but it's not always that simple like it seems supposed to be. It all depends on how direct and brave you are.

For me I was close to heart attack when I was talking my girlfriend about that. I couldn't get my words across - but I hope in your case It might be easier.

How girl will react ? It depends on her personality.
Each one of my ex girlfriends (except the first one) found it very cool, unique and interesting at the same time.
They even felt involved to try it themself and my second ex girlfriend - who was the strongest - was able to carry my in various ways. I was 190-200 lbs in that time We even posted YT clip, but we took it down due to break up.

But the first girlfriend was like "No, that is fu***d up. The man supposed to carry woman, not the other way around".

Maybe it depends on the way you say it. When you'll be too pushy, you could discourage her.
If you'll do it kindly It might work.

anonim · June 26th, 2021, 22:02

I didn't tell anyone I had lift and carry fetish. But some of my other friends have foot fetish and I hear stories of telling them to their girlfriends. Frankly, the results are often negative and can affect their relationships badly. If I tell my girlfriend about this l&c situation, she will want to get ideas from other friends and I think everyone will know that I have this fetish and in this case I'm afraid of being called the guy with the weird fetish. But compared to a foot fetish, some people will find this fetish interesting or strange rather than disgusting.I know I couldn't answer your question but I wanted to write my thoughts.

May 3rd, 2021, 14:40	#1
preacher860 VIP Honored Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 196 : 4 For This Post 477 Total	As a teen and in my early 20s I used to be ashamed of it and not really mention it, which proved not to be the way to go. Eventually, the girls I dated understood I liked to be lifted by them and I felt they found it weird that I tried to hide in instead of just being open and honest about it. As I grew older I decided to be more open about it and it paid off. Back when I was dating, I would tell the girls right away, sometimes even before meeting them. Most of them found it really cute and amusing and were eager to give it a shot. I've had many good rides back then because the girls understood it was something important to me and really wanted to deliver to show me if we ever were to be together, they would be capable of giving me what I liked. And boy did they try hard, they really gave all they had to prove themselves! I also met a few that found it creepy, didn't want to try or even hear about it. Those were the ones I knew I better steer clear of. Not because I wouldn't want to be with a girl who won't give me a ride but because of the general lack of open-mindedness that lied beneath. And the fact I somewhat felt judged by them instead of understood. Oh well, and also, let's face it, no, I wouldn't want to be with a girl that's not even willing to try. Then I met the woman I've been with for the last 11 years and as for the others, I told her in the early days of our dating that I liked that. She was completely non-judgmental about it, found it original and funny, but also told me that she wasn't all that strong and didn't know if she could do it and for how long. We did try a piggyback at her place shortly after and indeed she could support my weight but it looked very hard and she could only move slowly. Since then however she's been working out a lot and became much stronger, actually able to give me piggyback rides that last for a few minutes, climb stairs, squat me, and she's having fun doing it. Not only that, she's also ok with me riding on other girls so what's not to like? So all in all, for me being open about it was the way to go. I can't speak for others, every situation is unique of course. But I can say I wouldn't be happy sharing my life with a woman that thinks I'm a weirdo.

May 5th, 2021, 10:58	#2
buryZenek STANDARD Join Date: Feb 2021 Posts: 27 : 0 For This Post 11 Total	It is always better to say about that directly but it's not always that simple like it seems supposed to be. It all depends on how direct and brave you are. For me I was close to heart attack when I was talking my girlfriend about that. I couldn't get my words across - but I hope in your case It might be easier. How girl will react ? It depends on her personality. Each one of my ex girlfriends (except the first one) found it very cool, unique and interesting at the same time. They even felt involved to try it themself and my second ex girlfriend - who was the strongest - was able to carry my in various ways. I was 190-200 lbs in that time We even posted YT clip, but we took it down due to break up. But the first girlfriend was like "No, that is fu***d up. The man supposed to carry woman, not the other way around". Maybe it depends on the way you say it. When you'll be too pushy, you could discourage her. If you'll do it kindly It might work.

June 26th, 2021, 22:02	#3
anonim STANDARD Join Date: Jun 2021 Posts: 15 : 0 For This Post 11 Total	I didn't tell anyone I had lift and carry fetish. But some of my other friends have foot fetish and I hear stories of telling them to their girlfriends. Frankly, the results are often negative and can affect their relationships badly. If I tell my girlfriend about this l&c situation, she will want to get ideas from other friends and I think everyone will know that I have this fetish and in this case I'm afraid of being called the guy with the weird fetish. But compared to a foot fetish, some people will find this fetish interesting or strange rather than disgusting.I know I couldn't answer your question but I wanted to write my thoughts.