Have you ever wished that you didn't have this fetish?

allffcradles · September 6th, 2013, 00:14

When I was growing up (As I keep reminding you all I've been turned on by women carried since I was an infant, long before I knew what fetishes were!)
I did wish I didn't have this fetish as it can be frustrating, a big distraction etc. Watching a video over and over again to see a carry scene.... I made peace thanks to finding ffcarries website cos I realised I wasn't alone! So I did make peace! Back then I didn't favour ff as such, just liked seeing women carried and of course is more common to see mf than ff, ff is rather specialised... Easy option would be to choose a common fetish as it can be difficult for us at times, being part of a rarer interest....

Well there is that comic story of mine where I was looking at a Tekken 3 chinese comic, yet I don't like the game series and by chance one issue had an ff cradle, I was hooked on those pages for a long time to the point I was told to leave and yep I did soil my pants in public whilst standing! (I was 14 then, don't think anyone knew that happened at least)

A few years after finding carrying communities online I finally told people I knew about it and nowadays I am quite open about it with strangers (not in person usually of course, only one family member knows and they're a cousin I hardly see)

So I thank the lift and carry communities past present and future for giving me some sort of peace with my fetish! Even so time does fly by when I intend for a quick browse.... Anyhow I haven't regretted developing this fetish for a long time now, it really is beautiful!

Snowstormbanana · September 6th, 2013, 23:59

Yes and no, i've found it difficult to live with a few times but i've never wished i didn't have it. Well never in a way i meant it anyways

pikey · September 7th, 2013, 09:23

Yes I've always thought it to be wrong to be turned on by this. But in reality I had no choice in the matter. I've only fairly recently started to embrace the fetish since it's an easy way to get turned on.

I do keep it firmly in the closet in life still. But I'm happy to embrace it online.

allffcradles · September 7th, 2013, 09:59

It's as innocent as fetishes go and clean so it's not bad! I know someone that has a thing for blood, doesn't sound healthy at all!

wm1122 · September 7th, 2013, 15:31

The reality is everyone has that secret fetish. "Psychologists and medical practitioners regard fetishism as normal variations of human sexuality"

I don't have any regret to having this fetish/hobby. While it is a fetish that requires significant time to enjoy, searching for photos videos, (which yeah might be good to not spend as much time), but look at everyone else. How much time do they spend on video games and Facebook stalking of high school and college friends? I don't think its any more unhealthy and a waste of time then those other hobbies a lot of people do and admit too.

The reality is all fetishes are creepy to those you approach if they don't know you or aren't familiar with you or your taste. Is asking a random girl to pick you up, or a girl to pick up her friends because you like to see it creepy? Yes very much so lol. But is asking a random girl to let you look at her feet, or try on a particular item of clothing creepy too? Yes it is lol. Anytime you ask someone to do something for your sexual enjoyment IE your fetish that would not be into you sexually is creepy.

However, if it is someone you trust and love and they are into you sexually there should be no ashame. Its a fetish. Its normal. Granted I like f/f so its pretty much impossible unless I convince my wife to turn bi for me to ever really experience that first hand, as again how would we approach another female to let my wife pic her up without it being super creepy? Not really possible lol. So other then the very fortunate random observations of f/f I have, The last one was about 10 years ago lol, I can't enjoy this one in person.

I did screw up though. I had an ex gf who knew of my like in this, but we never went there. Two years ago after I got married to someone else, we randomly started texting one night. And it came out that she had been with a women sexually after we broke up. And I asked if she carried her to bed, she said no, that would be something that she would only do if I was there, since that was my thing. DAMN IT!!!!!! FUCK!!!! LOL. I never cheated on my wife, but oh the urge was there.
We even went into a great deal in out texting on should my ex carry the girl, or the girl carry my ex. My ex even said she would carry me.

Anyway, live and learn. The wife, is very much not into girls. Trust me I have tried to see if I could go there lol.

Slevin · September 7th, 2013, 15:53

Instead of wishing not to have it, I'd rather have the ability to wish it on other people.

Lao · October 9th, 2022, 02:21

Sometimes I feel guilty but after watching few videos my mind completely changes 😂

benchwarmer25 · November 6th, 2022, 04:44

There have been several times where I wished I didn't have this fetish. I have felt embarrassed and not like a real man. I've tried multiple times to stop thinking about L&C or watching L&C videos and sometimes have been able to go a few months without it, but usually what happens is I'll see a clip in a movie/show or I'll have a dream related to L&C and the next thing I know I am binging L&C content. Lately I've been trying to just accept the fact that this fetish is an integral part of who I am as a person, and all in all I think it is better than being addicted to drugs or alcohol.

christinabdnr · May 3rd, 2023, 23:19

I dreamed not just of not having a fetish, but of not knowing what sex and masturbation were. I had a difficult period in my life and everything made me unacceptable and disgusted.

Jackydidi · July 26th, 2023, 02:10

Having this fetish was a real problem for me since I was a kid, I thought I was the only one with this weird fetish. I’m so honestly so happy to have found this forum and to see that I’m not alone

October 9th, 2022, 02:21	#7
Lao Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2022 Posts: 12 : 0 For This Post 0 Total	Yes Sometimes I feel guilty but after watching few videos my mind completely changes 😂

November 6th, 2022, 04:44	#8
benchwarmer25 STANDARD Join Date: Jun 2019 Location: USA Posts: 11 : 1 For This Post 12 Total	Sometimes There have been several times where I wished I didn't have this fetish. I have felt embarrassed and not like a real man. I've tried multiple times to stop thinking about L&C or watching L&C videos and sometimes have been able to go a few months without it, but usually what happens is I'll see a clip in a movie/show or I'll have a dream related to L&C and the next thing I know I am binging L&C content. Lately I've been trying to just accept the fact that this fetish is an integral part of who I am as a person, and all in all I think it is better than being addicted to drugs or alcohol.

July 26th, 2023, 02:10	#10
Jackydidi STANDARD Join Date: Jul 2023 Posts: 10 : 0 For This Post 6 Total	Yes Having this fetish was a real problem for me since I was a kid, I thought I was the only one with this weird fetish. I’m so honestly so happy to have found this forum and to see that I’m not alone

September 6th, 2013, 00:14	#1
allffcradles VIPOS Join Date: May 2009 Location: London Posts: 875 : 0 For This Post 1,155 Total	When I was growing up (As I keep reminding you all I've been turned on by women carried since I was an infant, long before I knew what fetishes were!) I did wish I didn't have this fetish as it can be frustrating, a big distraction etc. Watching a video over and over again to see a carry scene.... I made peace thanks to finding ffcarries website cos I realised I wasn't alone! So I did make peace! Back then I didn't favour ff as such, just liked seeing women carried and of course is more common to see mf than ff, ff is rather specialised... Easy option would be to choose a common fetish as it can be difficult for us at times, being part of a rarer interest.... Well there is that comic story of mine where I was looking at a Tekken 3 chinese comic, yet I don't like the game series and by chance one issue had an ff cradle, I was hooked on those pages for a long time to the point I was told to leave and yep I did soil my pants in public whilst standing! (I was 14 then, don't think anyone knew that happened at least) A few years after finding carrying communities online I finally told people I knew about it and nowadays I am quite open about it with strangers (not in person usually of course, only one family member knows and they're a cousin I hardly see) So I thank the lift and carry communities past present and future for giving me some sort of peace with my fetish! Even so time does fly by when I intend for a quick browse.... Anyhow I haven't regretted developing this fetish for a long time now, it really is beautiful!

September 6th, 2013, 23:59	#2
Snowstormbanana VIP Honored Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 227 : 0 For This Post 342 Total	Yes and no, i've found it difficult to live with a few times but i've never wished i didn't have it. Well never in a way i meant it anyways

September 7th, 2013, 09:23	#3
pikey VIP Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 66 : 1 For This Post 93 Total	Yes I've always thought it to be wrong to be turned on by this. But in reality I had no choice in the matter. I've only fairly recently started to embrace the fetish since it's an easy way to get turned on. I do keep it firmly in the closet in life still. But I'm happy to embrace it online.

September 7th, 2013, 09:59	#4
allffcradles VIPOS Join Date: May 2009 Location: London Posts: 875 : 0 For This Post 1,155 Total	It's as innocent as fetishes go and clean so it's not bad! I know someone that has a thing for blood, doesn't sound healthy at all!

September 7th, 2013, 15:31	#5
wm1122 VIPOS Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 743 : 1 For This Post 5,041 Total	The reality is everyone has that secret fetish. "Psychologists and medical practitioners regard fetishism as normal variations of human sexuality" I don't have any regret to having this fetish/hobby. While it is a fetish that requires significant time to enjoy, searching for photos videos, (which yeah might be good to not spend as much time), but look at everyone else. How much time do they spend on video games and Facebook stalking of high school and college friends? I don't think its any more unhealthy and a waste of time then those other hobbies a lot of people do and admit too. The reality is all fetishes are creepy to those you approach if they don't know you or aren't familiar with you or your taste. Is asking a random girl to pick you up, or a girl to pick up her friends because you like to see it creepy? Yes very much so lol. But is asking a random girl to let you look at her feet, or try on a particular item of clothing creepy too? Yes it is lol. Anytime you ask someone to do something for your sexual enjoyment IE your fetish that would not be into you sexually is creepy. However, if it is someone you trust and love and they are into you sexually there should be no ashame. Its a fetish. Its normal. Granted I like f/f so its pretty much impossible unless I convince my wife to turn bi for me to ever really experience that first hand, as again how would we approach another female to let my wife pic her up without it being super creepy? Not really possible lol. So other then the very fortunate random observations of f/f I have, The last one was about 10 years ago lol, I can't enjoy this one in person. I did screw up though. I had an ex gf who knew of my like in this, but we never went there. Two years ago after I got married to someone else, we randomly started texting one night. And it came out that she had been with a women sexually after we broke up. And I asked if she carried her to bed, she said no, that would be something that she would only do if I was there, since that was my thing. DAMN IT!!!!!! FUCK!!!! LOL. I never cheated on my wife, but oh the urge was there. We even went into a great deal in out texting on should my ex carry the girl, or the girl carry my ex. My ex even said she would carry me. Anyway, live and learn. The wife, is very much not into girls. Trust me I have tried to see if I could go there lol.

September 7th, 2013, 15:53	#6
Slevin VIP Honored Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: The United States of America Posts: 618 : 2 For This Post 580 Total	Instead of wishing not to have it, I'd rather have the ability to wish it on other people.

May 3rd, 2023, 23:19	#9
christinabdnr Junior Member Join Date: May 2023 Posts: 6 : 0 For This Post 1 Total	I dreamed not just of not having a fetish, but of not knowing what sex and masturbation were. I had a difficult period in my life and everything made me unacceptable and disgusted.