depressed about l&c

filmguy · May 26th, 2009, 06:55

What's there to be depressed about, really?

Is it an usual fetish? Sure.

But think about it this way. There are people in there who are into pedophilia, beastiality, bloodplay... at least you're (hopefully) not one of them.

Storm · May 29th, 2009, 23:05

Ok, lets look at this.
You are in a situation which is stressful with the regards to the break up.
What will happen is that you will automaticaly, as a survival instinct, look to what makes you feel good.
Just remember, you are lucky it isnt chocolate!
If you can take a step back for a moment, look back at the situation you are in from a seperate standpoint, notice that you are looking for something which gives you that "feel good" then you might find the "need" drops away a little.
I am not suggesting you will lose it but it should reduce. It is a normal reaction in most stressful situations and if you are depressed then this will be polarised.
Some of the other points raised about fetish addiction are a seperate issue - although still very valid and good issues to raise.
Make a list of all the things you have to do in order to move forward and focus on that - it is a pattern inerrupt which will help.

Eron · May 31st, 2009, 19:08

Quote:

Originally Posted by filmguy

What's there to be depressed about, really?

Is it an usual fetish? Sure.

But think about it this way. There are people in there who are into pedophilia, beastiality, bloodplay... at least you're (hopefully) not one of them.

That's right

Liftme71 · September 27th, 2009, 17:30

Quote:

Originally Posted by filmguy

Is it an usual fetish? Sure.

But think about it this way. There are people in there who are into pedophilia, beastiality, bloodplay... at least you're (hopefully) not one of them.

But many Fetishes like Sado-Maso or Gay-Love looks "Normal" to the people. When you tell a Woman that Lift&Carry gives you a Turn on than they think its unusual and maybe they think that you are a Freak.

Often i wish that i was born with normal and accepted sexual intrests. But L&C is a part of me.

May 29th, 2009, 23:05	#2
Storm STANDARD Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: UK Posts: 108 : 0 For This Post 27 Total	Ok, lets look at this. You are in a situation which is stressful with the regards to the break up. What will happen is that you will automaticaly, as a survival instinct, look to what makes you feel good. Just remember, you are lucky it isnt chocolate! If you can take a step back for a moment, look back at the situation you are in from a seperate standpoint, notice that you are looking for something which gives you that "feel good" then you might find the "need" drops away a little. I am not suggesting you will lose it but it should reduce. It is a normal reaction in most stressful situations and if you are depressed then this will be polarised. Some of the other points raised about fetish addiction are a seperate issue - although still very valid and good issues to raise. Make a list of all the things you have to do in order to move forward and focus on that - it is a pattern inerrupt which will help. __________________ The Amazon Storm - onwards and upwards Your strong diva and pain in the arse www.sessiongirls.com/storm

May 26th, 2009, 06:55	#1
filmguy STANDARD Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 71 : 0 For This Post 57 Total	What's there to be depressed about, really? Is it an usual fetish? Sure. But think about it this way. There are people in there who are into pedophilia, beastiality, bloodplay... at least you're (hopefully) not one of them.