Telling your girl about lift and carry

[tjw1971]

The problem I've had more and more in recent years is finding women who used to be pretty strong and have no issues with the whole lift and carry thing as an interest. But they tell me they can't do things like that anymore due to an injury.

I guess that's the problem with L&C, more than with a lot of other fetish type interests people might have. It has certain physical requirements and by the time people are over, say, 40-ish years old, they can't always do what they used to do.

You can find exceptions out there, obviously. But I even met people like a former bodybuilder in Florida who is no longer doing any lifting at all because of bad knees and I think a neck problem. (She's currently a huge Star Wars fan and is all into attending conventions for it and collecting items from the movies.) And again, she wasn't that old ... It's just that weightlifting kind of tore her body up.

There's even a lady I'm supposed to meet up with tomorrow at a dinner gathering ... old friend of a friend kind of thing. I met this girl a LONG time ago and forgot all about her. But it turns out she's been a single mom for years and her kid is about ready to move out of her house, so now she's interested in the dating scene. My friend told me this lady was "really strong and has muscles", so that definitely piqued my interest! Unfortunately, I just found out she messed up her shoulder last year and can't lift much at all with that arm now. Won't even have enough days off saved up from her work to get the surgery done on it until probably next year.

So I guess the moral of the story here is, get your L&C in with the 20 and 30-somethings, while they're still at their peak strength potential.

[derrtderr]

Originally Posted by phoneman

Simple honest approach since it is no longer taboo for women to be strong. Good for you.

Cheers Don’t get me wrong: I still meet plenty of women with a “men are supposed to be stronger” kinda attitude. I just move past that. Ain’t nobody got time for that noise.

Originally Posted by tjw1971

The problem I've had more and more …

I’ve met loads of open minded and strong forty somethings. They’re usually less insecure as well so more likely to embrace their dominant amazon.

[Lifted321]

I have a gf, and she realized that I love lift and carry, because I always lift and fuck her, but she doesnt know that I also love being lifted. Anyways I havent told her yet, because im pretty sure she will find it pretty strange

[greystreets]

Originally Posted by Lifted321

I have a gf, and she realized that I love lift and carry, because I always lift and fuck her, but she doesnt know that I also love being lifted. Anyways I havent told her yet, because im pretty sure she will find it pretty strange

Go for it - maybe she has a special kink she would like to share as well. In fact, you can start the conversation by asking her that question.

Or you can playfully suggest she try to carry you next time you lift her.

[Brekky]

I'd just be open and honest about it. Especially if indulging in lift and carry is something you want out of your relationship. It's not really a taboo kink, so worst case scenario is generally your partner will let you know they're not into it.

[LifedBoy]

I just told my ex-girlfriend and my current girlfriend that I like being lifted. They both were really open about it.
They just started lifting me up a couple of times. I think its important, not to be agressive about it. Just give be honest. I think that if your partner loves you, she/he will help you with your needs.

[forevernate28]

Most of the partners I have told have been cool with it. My fifth thought it was really weird (although it was nothing compared to hers), and my sixth actually really loved being picked up. However, the next one hated being carried, and when I tried, she got angry and told her best friend to tell me off about it on Facebook Messenger. Needless to say, it only lasted a few weeks anyway.

My fiancé is totally supportive, but she’s a big girl, and I can’t lift her for longer than a second, if even that. She’s tried to help me find friends who love being carried, though, including going onto her Fetlife and putting a hit out for people (no responses there, ofc). She just really doesn’t want me to do sessions because of how expensive they are.

[Stickgames45]

For me I never mentioned it. But my wife just occasionally feels like carrying me for some reason. I love it but sometimes I worry that it's maybe because she found something in my web history or maybe she found a video on my pc and still never told me about it. Who knows..

[luff(arungen)]

nowadays it is easier to do this because you can first playfully talk about her being strong and then "realize" after a little while that her strength turns her on...and then "realize" that her lifting you also turns you on. In case you don't want to be honest from the get-go, that is.

One thing I used to do back when telling a girl of my lift and carry fetish was that - as we dated - I would bring up the topic of fetishes. Not MY fetish but rather HER fetishes. I would ask her if she had any fetishes or anything kinky she liked. Or maybe just something she preferred during/before sex. If they were shy about it, I'd encourage them and say that everyone has fetishes/kinks/preferences and there's nothing wrong with it. I'd also say that I'd like to accommodate their fetish.

In every single case where the girl told me of her fetish/kink/preference, she would then reciprocate the question. That would be a good segue to me mentioning my fetish.