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Originally Posted by zebra
I agree with you. It's a rather harmless activity, although some people try to pathologize it like it's a mental problem or a social taboo. It's fine if it's kept in perspective and there's no obsession. It's not even a real fetish if you don't need it in order to become aroused.
I always wanted my girlfriend or my wife to have a lifting and wrestling session, but I never had the guts to mention it. I thought that there was a slight chance that they would freak out over it. I showed a F/F lifting tape to a date back in the day, and she was really turned off by it. I acted like it confused me too.
I put an ad in a small alt newspaper way back when that was a thing. I asked to meet women who were into lift and carry. A girl called, and she said that she liked to do that with her girlfriend and that I should join them. She didn't leave a contact number!  |
I completely understand your situation and I also agree to your view that it is not a real fetish, since it is not needed to be aroused. I also think that the phenomenon involves much more than a sexual aspect: For example: emotional relief, handing over control to another person, a feeling of security, which is so intense, that it is normally not reachable in adult life.
In various longer or shorter relationships, I only had one explicitly negative experience (in this case I asked for a little bit of wrestling). In the biggest part the reactions were positive to very positive, maybe neutral in a few cases, but - apart from this one case - always friendly.
Maybe try contact improvisation classes? Or a "thai and fly" or "therapeutic flying" massage? I also was once lifted by a professional cuddler. I really hope you get to experience being lifted soon.
