Telling your girl about lift and carry

forevernate28 · April 22nd, 2022, 17:35

Most of the partners I have told have been cool with it. My fifth thought it was really weird (although it was nothing compared to hers), and my sixth actually really loved being picked up. However, the next one hated being carried, and when I tried, she got angry and told her best friend to tell me off about it on Facebook Messenger. Needless to say, it only lasted a few weeks anyway.

My fiancé is totally supportive, but she’s a big girl, and I can’t lift her for longer than a second, if even that. She’s tried to help me find friends who love being carried, though, including going onto her Fetlife and putting a hit out for people (no responses there, ofc). She just really doesn’t want me to do sessions because of how expensive they are.

Stickgames45 · August 7th, 2022, 09:35

For me I never mentioned it. But my wife just occasionally feels like carrying me for some reason. I love it but sometimes I worry that it's maybe because she found something in my web history or maybe she found a video on my pc and still never told me about it. Who knows..

luff(arungen) · August 9th, 2022, 19:20

nowadays it is easier to do this because you can first playfully talk about her being strong and then "realize" after a little while that her strength turns her on...and then "realize" that her lifting you also turns you on. In case you don't want to be honest from the get-go, that is.

One thing I used to do back when telling a girl of my lift and carry fetish was that - as we dated - I would bring up the topic of fetishes. Not MY fetish but rather HER fetishes. I would ask her if she had any fetishes or anything kinky she liked. Or maybe just something she preferred during/before sex. If they were shy about it, I'd encourage them and say that everyone has fetishes/kinks/preferences and there's nothing wrong with it. I'd also say that I'd like to accommodate their fetish.

In every single case where the girl told me of her fetish/kink/preference, she would then reciprocate the question. That would be a good segue to me mentioning my fetish.

pickmeup9 · August 9th, 2022, 22:51

Here’s what I did in my last relationship. I picked her up and made out with her. Then later I asked if she thought that was hot. Then I mentioned I think it’d be hot if she did it to me. And she was like, sure. And then it was fine, and I could refer to it later and be like “remember the time…” to remind her it was a big turn on for me.

As for whether to tell your partner or not, I mean, of course you should. Do you want to do l&c with her? If so, then you’ve got to communicate for that to happen. I can’t imagine having a close relationship with someone without mentioning that part of myself. Let me assure you, it is definitely worth it.

August 9th, 2022, 19:20	#3
luff(arungen) Administrator Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: USA Posts: 1,088 : 2 For This Post 625 Total	my tactic nowadays it is easier to do this because you can first playfully talk about her being strong and then "realize" after a little while that her strength turns her on...and then "realize" that her lifting you also turns you on. In case you don't want to be honest from the get-go, that is. One thing I used to do back when telling a girl of my lift and carry fetish was that - as we dated - I would bring up the topic of fetishes. Not MY fetish but rather HER fetishes. I would ask her if she had any fetishes or anything kinky she liked. Or maybe just something she preferred during/before sex. If they were shy about it, I'd encourage them and say that everyone has fetishes/kinks/preferences and there's nothing wrong with it. I'd also say that I'd like to accommodate their fetish. In every single case where the girl told me of her fetish/kink/preference, she would then reciprocate the question. That would be a good segue to me mentioning my fetish. __________________ Luffarungen, the one and only

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April 22nd, 2022, 17:35	#1
forevernate28 VIP Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 252 : 0 For This Post 215 Total	Most of the partners I have told have been cool with it. My fifth thought it was really weird (although it was nothing compared to hers), and my sixth actually really loved being picked up. However, the next one hated being carried, and when I tried, she got angry and told her best friend to tell me off about it on Facebook Messenger. Needless to say, it only lasted a few weeks anyway. My fiancé is totally supportive, but she’s a big girl, and I can’t lift her for longer than a second, if even that. She’s tried to help me find friends who love being carried, though, including going onto her Fetlife and putting a hit out for people (no responses there, ofc). She just really doesn’t want me to do sessions because of how expensive they are.

August 7th, 2022, 09:35	#2
Stickgames45 VIP Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Germany Posts: 81 : 0 For This Post 193 Total	For me I never mentioned it. But my wife just occasionally feels like carrying me for some reason. I love it but sometimes I worry that it's maybe because she found something in my web history or maybe she found a video on my pc and still never told me about it. Who knows..

August 9th, 2022, 22:51	#4
pickmeup9 VIP Honored Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 413 : 2 For This Post 1,628 Total	Here’s what I did in my last relationship. I picked her up and made out with her. Then later I asked if she thought that was hot. Then I mentioned I think it’d be hot if she did it to me. And she was like, sure. And then it was fine, and I could refer to it later and be like “remember the time…” to remind her it was a big turn on for me. As for whether to tell your partner or not, I mean, of course you should. Do you want to do l&c with her? If so, then you’ve got to communicate for that to happen. I can’t imagine having a close relationship with someone without mentioning that part of myself. Let me assure you, it is definitely worth it.